Today, I am dedicating this post to us women over 40. And if you haven’t reached this stage yet, please don’t feel excluded; enjoy the text—perhaps you are simply a “40+ soul”.
I’ve been watching a series about a woman in her 40s going through a divorce. She had to return to the job market after 15 years, having stayed at home to raise her daughter. There are several lines and moments in the programme that make me wonder: is this what people would say today? Would a position really be denied to someone who has been out of the market for so long?
In the show, most people denied her the opportunity because of social media. They believed that would be the greatest barrier to her adaptation. Personally, I find this somewhat misguided. Adaptation varies from person to person. Of course, those who have earlier access—whether to social media or any specific situation—get a head start in terms of understanding, simply because they’ve had more exposure.
This applies to everyday life too: a child who has the chance to study piano at seven will certainly have more skill than a teenager who starts at twelve, and so on.
With this in mind, I want to say that on this “way back”, I will focus more on what we can do and what I want to do. If I lack the technique, I will seek the necessary skills. I will read more, I will train myself, and I will use all my physical and mental energy to focus on my goals. I will establish small goals with short steps to create solid foundations.
Liza, the central character of the series, adapts to her new reality. She lies about her age to secure the job. I neither approve nor disapprove of her actions; after all, I am not the one going through a divorce, paying for a daughter’s university fees, and starting a new life.
Making the way back is about making choices; it is about making decisions, and that requires courage.
So, I close by saying to myself: you are going to become who you want to be five years from now. For the woman I am today to meet the 47-year-old woman I will become, I will need new habits. I will have to make new decisions every day and choices at every moment. So, I say: go, and go without fear. I can guarantee you—it will be worth it to be that 47-year-old version of yourself.
To everyone who has read this far, Happy 2026.
